tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post7497591133221988199..comments2023-05-09T04:57:48.290-05:00Comments on From A Submariner's Perspective: ...on Two Big Gay Nuts!SmagBoy1http://www.blogger.com/profile/06579694369460538262noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-21972908732596856362009-12-26T12:49:25.434-06:002009-12-26T12:49:25.434-06:00And I'm simply stunned why a Christian would d...And I'm simply stunned why a Christian would date an Atheist? WHY????<br /><br />May I suggest if you are dating you begin this process with a list, a list of what you DO NOT WANT in a mate. Identifying what you absolutely cannot deal with on an hourly, daily, annual basis leaves open all the great new ideas and behaviors you have not been exposed to. <br /><br />My sister had on her list some very simple requests...must use a variety of condiments other than ketchup...must not lick ones plate after eating...she's dated some doozies, married a few doozies and I've graciously welcomed them into the family!<br /><br />Not so much anymore...just not feeling it...<br /><br />Happy trails to you...DebbiePlaysWellWithOthershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11647894940477287915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-54923763861620765402009-12-23T07:48:22.112-06:002009-12-23T07:48:22.112-06:00Greetings MM. I do love equality! :-) And yes, ...Greetings MM. I do love equality! :-) And yes, I made the LW out to be a bit daffy because, well, to me she's missed entirely on the atheist issue here (as there's not one and yet she makes it central, which, as I've mentioned says more about her than him, and, if there isone, the atheist should be challenged on those grounds and not his general answer to her query), and, too, because our LW hasn't taken the exceptionally easy option of letting her wishes be known (which she admits will work and give her what she wants--if she even knows what she wants, which I doubt, thus my advice that she analyze that). Or, put another way, by an advice giver far more reknown for giveing advice than I am, please check the first letter and response here: <br /><br />http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/article.aspx?cp-documentid=23101023<br /><br />Seems that even those with extremely good manners encourage open communication, and, too, seems that the LW in the linked article is the soul sister of our atheist-BF-having LW. And that's not a good thing. :-( Why not just ask for what you want?! And yes, you're 100% correct. If she does ask and he refuses, it's asshatty. However, you're also 100% correct when you say that "she should further explain herself by saying 'it's important'" (if she hasn't, which, by her own admission, she has not). So, seems we agree 100%, and with Ms. Manners, too! Yay team! :-PSmagBoy1https://www.blogger.com/profile/06579694369460538262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-7093584179270929852009-12-22T20:11:36.227-06:002009-12-22T20:11:36.227-06:00Almost forgot the :)!Almost forgot the :)!Mermaidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17583754215885030959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-18717545794170446362009-12-22T20:10:15.843-06:002009-12-22T20:10:15.843-06:00Well, if you love equality so much, why don'tc...Well, if you love equality so much, why don'tcha marry it then? Just kidding. Let me start again:<br /><br />Well, if you love equality so much, then maybe you could not make our heroine sound like a half-wit while she's "explaining" herself, okay? "Um, gee golly, BF, um..." while all of a sudden Mr. Barely-glance-up-from-the-screen Joystick Junkie is coming off like Eloquence Personified. Snap!<br /><br />I don't think the BF put up some sort of grand protest. It isn't the size of his response that I have issue with, but rather the nature of it. Maybe the problem is that you are not giving this couple enough credit for communicating and I'm giving them way too much!<br /><br />Where I think we disagree is that I believe she adequately conveyed how important it was to her that he attend in her initial conversation with him and you don't believe that she did (as evidenced by your scenario, which if ran in chronological order has her first flat out telling him "it's no big deal" and then having to "explain" with "it's important to me.")<br /><br />If she did convey how important it was, then for him to refuse anyway was kind of asshatty. She shouldn't have to further explain herself by saying "it's important." (Unless that's some fold your arms in front of your chest super-secret nogirlsallowed treehouse password that gets guys to do stuff that I'm unaware of WHICH I HIGHLY DOUBT...) and<br /><br />If she didn't convey how important it was, then she should further explain herself by saying "it's important". On that I agree with you.Mermaidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17583754215885030959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-86203314496924993442009-12-22T14:32:47.117-06:002009-12-22T14:32:47.117-06:00Hey there, MM! I was missing you! I'm glad y...Hey there, MM! I was missing you! I'm glad you made it over to this side of the lagoon and as always am thrilled with your visit! :-)<br /><br />As for the SmagBoy1 question, haven't you noticed that he wears glasses and that I don't?! And, too, that we're never in the same place at the same time? I will say no more on this subject, and now, after having said what I *have* said, I invite you to look into this swirling light and relax your mind... ;-)<br /><br />Let's see, you've accused me of rolling over on thievery. And, truth is, I think you're half correct, or, that you're fully correct, but, that I am, too. So I agree with you. Sort of. Let me explain. My advice is that she needs to come to an emotional peace with this. She would have paid anyway, as you say. And, too, getting any of the money back may cost more heartache and emotion and money(!) than it's worth (wouldn't she hate paying lawyers more than she recovers?!). But, considering your point, you're 100% correct, too. Those who donated for mom's care need to know what's happened. So, even if the LW gets no money back from the confrontation that I, ahem, did suggest, ;-) she does need to let the relatives know what's up.<br /><br />As for LW#4, I think where we disagree is that you seem to think the BF put up some sort of grand protest about going. I read the letter differently. As if he said, in passing, "Hey, what if I stay at your parents while you guys go?" (which is like what was written to Prudie). That sounds like the kind of off-the-cuff suggestion one would make in passing. Having the LW simply respond by saying, "Well, I'd really rather you come with. It's important to me" is not begging. In fact, it's only clarification of her original question, which I feel certain went something like "Um, gee golly, BF, um, I know you hate God and church and all, but, would you consider, just this once, while at my folks', coming to church with us? It's no big deal. It's just one little service. Do you mind?" Begging puts her below him. Explaining herself, however, puts her equal to him. I'm for equality. Every time. :-)SmagBoy1https://www.blogger.com/profile/06579694369460538262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-19039987409501150442009-12-22T13:59:09.545-06:002009-12-22T13:59:09.545-06:00...Would you believe I had to cut my response in h......Would you believe I had to cut my response in half? Something about too many characters... do you think they mean the LWs?... probably not.<br /><br />As I was saying...<br /><br />LW#3 ~ This was clearly not a letter from one of Prudie's interns. It was too coherent and there was nary a spelling or grammatical mistake in sight. Likely it's been laying around a while, and Prudie reached into her "cheating Facebook texters" pile and realized all she need do was substitute "golf" for "fishing" or "football" and voila! a "timely" letter was born. But aside from that, your response was pure genius, probably because it was the same as mine. Again.<br /><br />LW#4 ~ Okay, here's where the water gets a little choppy in this here Lagoon, Captain. But that's okay, the more we disagree, the better it is when we have make-up...er... agreeing with each other. Am I right<br /><br />So basically what you're saying is ~ if I said, "Captain, we're going to the folks' for Christmas Eve, and they usually go to church that night, and my dad is playing in the service, would you like to go with us?" And you said *grumblegrumble* "Shove off mate ~ I'd be bored and uncomfortable ~ why don't I just stay on board while you go ahead?" Are you telling me that then you'd want me to say "But pleeeeease Captain ~ It's important to me!" Because that sounds like you want me to beg you. Is that it? You want your Mermaid to beg you to come? Well, I will if that's what floats your boat, sugar britches, but I warn you ~ I'm not getting on my knees again. Not to beg, anyway. ;)<br /><br />You are right in one respect ~ she does WANT him to WANT to go. For one simple reason. Women want to think that the person they love most in the world truly understands them. They want to believe that all they need do is express the slightest interest in something and their beloved will immediately divine the importance of this, and act accordingly. She wants him to WANT to come ~ not to impress her family, not even to keep the peace ~ but because she wants to believe that the man she loves truly understands her heart ~ and Knows what and when something is important to her ~ and wants to give that to her.<br /><br />I can see you need some more tutoring on what a woman really wants. Don't worry, diving buddy. You have a fairly competent teacher at your disposal. Ready for your first lesson? ;)<br /><br />See you over on my side of the Lagoon, my Captain. And don't be late. It's IMPORTANT to me. See? Mermaid can learn a few new tricks, too.<br /><br />Happy Holidays, to you too, Smaggie. xoxoxoMermaidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17583754215885030959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-13759112862381936132009-12-22T13:58:01.239-06:002009-12-22T13:58:01.239-06:00Ahoy, Captain! As I explained to my friends in the...Ahoy, Captain! As I explained to my friends in the Lagoon, I have been a bit delayed in getting to you this week. I made the mistake of visiting Santa to tell him what I'd like to find stuffing my stocking this year ~ and Santa DOES so like to keep me on his lap for an awfully long time!<br /><br />I'm suddenly curious about something ~ if YOU write your column, my darling Submariner, why do you delegate SmagBoy to answer the responses? Surely my great big tough crusty ol' salt of the sea can't be afraid to face his reponders on his own ~ can he?<br /><br />You did fine on #1. Who cares where they let their kids crap, as long as it's not my couch. That's my motto. And you're right ~ they will learn. Oh they will SO learn...<br /><br />LW#2 ~ Now here we have a problem. I never thought I'd see the day when my beloved Submariner would ROLL OVER for thievery. Why, I've known you to wrench a fishbone from a cat's throat if you thought it was yours first. And remember the time Nine-Fingered Molly rifled through your pockets looking for your loose change while you satedly snored away? I'll bet she won't try THAT trick again (at least, not so dexterously anyway! haha!)<br /><br />Anyway, my point is ~ stop making such a big deal of her turn-of-phrase "I had to pay for my mother's expenses". She told us that to impress upon us that she has no siblings or father to share the cost with ~ which might be substantial for all we know (and given the cost of health care, it probably is!) Of course she would have paid for these expenses anyway, and I'm sure gladly, (and of course she wouldn't have "shaken down" anybody, silly rabbit!) but to find out that someone else will benefit from her mother's death while she herself becomes financially strained ~ why that sticks in the throat like a stolen fishbone!<br /><br />As far as describing the advice to tell other family members what has transcribed "pansy-ass", was that supposed to be an insult? (You could liken my ass to a pansy and I'd be not the least insulted my dear!) It seems in your mind she cannot win whatever path she chooses. If she says nothing and has family members confront her about not saying anything about the money when she found out, would she not be guilty of being a "martyr"? I think so.<br /><br />You must remember that she is likely an orphan now, and her mother's expenses likely paid out of whatever small inheritance she received ~ if anything. It is not right that she be made to suffer financially when so many kind-hearted people went out of their way to see that she doesn't. Or that in her old age and because of her aunt's larceny she should be reduced to eating cat food ~ or wrestling your cat for that tasty fishbone in his throat!<br /><br />(to be continued...)Mermaidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17583754215885030959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-83856354594004103712009-12-22T13:39:16.591-06:002009-12-22T13:39:16.591-06:00Smag, this is what comes of reading too many advic...Smag, this is what comes of reading too many advice columns (now, to apply such logic to my life)... : )<br /><br />Thank you, and to everyone, happy holidays, or at least quiet time away from your jobs. : )Nagatukinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-63636954998910514072009-12-22T11:41:03.994-06:002009-12-22T11:41:03.994-06:00Nagatuki, your last two paragraphs, above, freakin...Nagatuki, your last two paragraphs, above, freakin' NAILED it! And much more concisely and completely than I did (I took twice as long to say half as much)! Bravo! Now, if only our LW would read what you've written.<br /><br />As Schuyler says, Happy Happy and all that other shit. ;-)SmagBoy1https://www.blogger.com/profile/06579694369460538262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-58033507750185745582009-12-22T11:39:00.172-06:002009-12-22T11:39:00.172-06:00Hey Schuyler! Sorry about gettin' your knee t...Hey Schuyler! Sorry about gettin' your knee to twitching. I'm glad you knew what I meant, though, and expounded upon it beautifully! :-)<br /><br />Happy holiday times, to you, too, Schuyler. :-)SmagBoy1https://www.blogger.com/profile/06579694369460538262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-2196654723074430392009-12-22T09:25:24.927-06:002009-12-22T09:25:24.927-06:00Smag, you may be on to something with LW4; I for o...Smag, you may be on to something with LW4; I for one don't buy her reasoning, either.<br /><br />FWIW, I also don't take much stock in "liberal" Christians. <br /><br />Please. Either you're religious or not, and saying "I'm more liberal than my parents" might mean not wearing a hat to church for all we know.<br /><br />There are many things going on here:<br /><br />One, the boyfriend, atheist or not, should be able to put up with a reasonable and reasonably-timed event (i.e. it's not 3 hours).<br /><br />I suspect Space Cadet you don't mean atheists are necessarily assholes; just this particular one using it as an excuse (I hope this is the case, anyway).<br /><br />But two, I also hate passive-aggressive: if you tell him it's important to you, and he goes, you've not "forced" him to go. This is why men get to hate women: he can't win, b/c now he's "only" going b/c she asked, but how else is he supposed to come to that decision?<br /><br />Which brings it back around to my first point: LW _is_ religious, and wants _him_ to be religious. <br /><br />Look, if you're old enough to marry, it shouldn't matter what your parents think, since it's not their life.<br /><br />So I can only conclude it matters to you; now own that little bit of detail and make your decision, but don't pretend this is some sort of drama between BF and parents when it's all about you wanting to create drama.Nagatukinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-3353118589272697622009-12-22T08:41:25.493-06:002009-12-22T08:41:25.493-06:00Gotta tell you, Smaggy: that twitch in my bum knee...Gotta tell you, Smaggy: that twitch in my bum knee that tells me bad weather's a-comin' started twanging like Waylon's out of tune Gibson when I read the following: "...parenting is a lot of fun, but please know that it is its most fun when you’re sincerely enjoying your kids and not trying to engage in performance art for the sake of your community or friends."<br /><br />Oh, yes sir. There's a massive "Big Gay Al - aren't I fabulous!" vibe working here, and it's completely awash in baby shit, dressed in tee-shirts made by slave laborers in Honduras and foisted as "100% organic!!!" at Nordstrom's, and littered with little wooden cars and trucks hewn from recently deforested regions of China and slathered with red paint that's possibly chock-full of lead, radioactive materials, and the blood of the workers who died on the production line to make the $0.30 piece of shit in the first place.<br /><br />In these ways, we save the planet. And it's fabulous!<br /><br />And it looks great on Dr. Phil and Oprah too; glossy and shiny and as believable and altruistic as a warm-hearted and erudite statement to the press from (fill in the name of any senator or congressman).<br /><br />Ah, la. Merry Holidays, Happy Kwanzaa, Jingle Hannukah, Feliz Xmas, and may you enjoy all the good tidings of this holiday season, strong in health and heart and spirit, and you know, all that other shit.<br /><br />Ciao Bello.Schuyler =^oo^=https://www.blogger.com/profile/05022527448487356922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-10807945016403617752009-12-20T01:11:36.632-06:002009-12-20T01:11:36.632-06:00Ah, Okay, gotcha, yah, you betcha. I still think ...Ah, Okay, gotcha, yah, you betcha. I still think LW2 is entitled to be irked about the aunt. That's just cold, you know?<br /><br />Not DoD (the NSPS thing you mentioned), but close. A nonprofit that did report to the DoE as a guarantor, but these days I'm not so sure. Congress has an Education bill lined up after Healthcare. The Senate likes to do "things" to its bills these days, I've noticed. Who knows what shall be wrought??<br /><br />Snow, snow, and yet more snow is predicted tonight. Oh yay wheeeherdThinnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11243614435958257781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-80310530022922192572009-12-19T16:39:35.919-06:002009-12-19T16:39:35.919-06:00Kati, please see my first response to Herdthinner ...Kati, please see my first response to Herdthinner for my response to your diaper story. So, see, it's *not* a senior thing! :-) And, if I'm completely honest with you, I read right past the ahoi and didn't even pause. Is that having too many foreign languages and the mind just moves right through?<br /><br />So, to you, then, I say Happy Holidays, Felices Fiestas, Frohes Weihnachten und neues Jahr!SmagBoy1https://www.blogger.com/profile/06579694369460538262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-13502862706079603302009-12-19T16:35:08.249-06:002009-12-19T16:35:08.249-06:00OH! Whoops! I got confused! The portion of the ...OH! Whoops! I got confused! The portion of the post above regarding diapers was for Kati. I've been traveling and trying to catch up and I got confused. My apologies.<br /><br />Herdthinner, please understand that what I was trying to get LW#2 to understand is that she did what she did out of love. She "had" to, but, out of love. So, in the end, had there been no money, the LW would have paid for it and done what? I was trying to help him/her understand that, regardless of the outcome, he/she did the right thing and should try to gain peace in that. Worrying too much about money can send one to an early grave. :-)<br /><br />Yucky about your ex-roomie! Holy smokes, what a mess. I'm glad that you got out of that. And, too, thanks for the whack on the noggin. I deserved it for something, I'm sure! :-)SmagBoy1https://www.blogger.com/profile/06579694369460538262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-31855228795614968832009-12-19T16:27:54.111-06:002009-12-19T16:27:54.111-06:00herdthinner, it sounds like you, too, work for the...herdthinner, it sounds like you, too, work for the government under NSPS. What a mess that is! And, if you don't, trust me, we're experiencing the same thing you are right now. Congrats on the good eval., though. :-)<br /><br />As for the errant diaper, oh no! My father works in construction, so I grew up doing all sorts of construction-related jobs. Constructing new drain fields and changing out septic tank filters, etc., was occasionally one of them, so, I know what grand fun they can be. But, at the same time, life happens, you know?<br /><br />Good cheer!SmagBoy1https://www.blogger.com/profile/06579694369460538262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-24647291799105959652009-12-19T16:24:02.538-06:002009-12-19T16:24:02.538-06:00Debbie, you said "fond farewell!" I hop...Debbie, you said "fond farewell!" I hope you just meant for this week? Please do say it's only for the week!<br /><br />As for the rest of your post, I love your take on freedom. A lot to be said for that. And for how you value guests in your own home, or, too, how you'd like to be treated as a guest in someone else's. Here's hoping we see you soon! I didn't like the sound of that "farewell!"SmagBoy1https://www.blogger.com/profile/06579694369460538262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-14300400476836876052009-12-19T16:20:23.724-06:002009-12-19T16:20:23.724-06:00Drekab, I'm with you in spirit, but, when you ...Drekab, I'm with you in spirit, but, when you said:<br /><br />"I'm having a great time but I'm gonna take off for an hour" comes off a little better than "I'll just stay here, in your house, watching your tv, and raiding your fridge. You guys have fun." Well, tough shit, life ain't always fair.<br /><br />you lost me. I reckon if you're comfortable enough with someone to allow them to be a guest in your home, you shouldn't have a problem with them watching "your" TV, or thinking of their eating your food as "raiding." If I thought that way about someone, I'd not have them a guest in my home as to me guest can make himself at home in my house, always! :-)<br /><br />And my beef is that it sounds like the kid will go if the LW just expresses that it's important to her. I mean, would you go to a Pagan animal sacrifice out of politeness if you were visiting friends and they were going to one? Not to say that'd happen, but, sometimes there *are* legitimate reasons not to go with hosts somewhere they go. IMHO.SmagBoy1https://www.blogger.com/profile/06579694369460538262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-60436643995664298402009-12-19T16:13:51.714-06:002009-12-19T16:13:51.714-06:00Hey Corey. Yeah, until they have some control ove...Hey Corey. Yeah, until they have some control over their bowels, utilizing this method in public is criminal (in my humble opinion). I'm not suggesting jail time, just a time out and a stern talking to for parents who do boneheaded stuff like that. Idiots!<br /><br />Hey Spacey! Yepper, I don't know what her deal is, either. Especially since she says he'd go if she asked? So, who knows? I'm curious about *why* it's important to her, though? I don't mean in a general way, I mean, specifically, WHY? If we can get that answer, then we'll know a lot more. I mean, if it's to see dad perform, that's a good and reasonable thing. If it's so that her folks won't give her crap, though? Not so much. Oh well, I guess we'll never know.SmagBoy1https://www.blogger.com/profile/06579694369460538262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-24711337176908385182009-12-19T16:09:43.513-06:002009-12-19T16:09:43.513-06:00Hey Pooham! Thanks for stopping by the lagoon. :...Hey Pooham! Thanks for stopping by the lagoon. :-) I think I understand what you mean about gift registries, but, they're so ubiquitous now that I think we're going to have to accept them. We don't have to like them, or use them ourselves, but, sometimes things do become so accepted that they become the norm. I think that Dear Abby or Ms. Manners reminded someone recently that telephones used to be considered rude, too, as they were bound to cut down on written correspondence. Oh well. :-)<br /><br />Hey Deb! It's great to see you here. :-) You and your husband sound great, and I have a feeling that I'd get along with him very well, although, like you, I don't argue with my mom, either. I just don't go with her. ;-) As for the vocab tweaks, I'm always glad to help. Did you catch "fecal macaroons" last week? I was rather proud of that one! ;-)SmagBoy1https://www.blogger.com/profile/06579694369460538262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-59974381536155953872009-12-19T12:17:40.912-06:002009-12-19T12:17:40.912-06:00PS more: oh me god, I mispelled "Ahoy"!...PS more: oh me god, I mispelled "Ahoy"! Is this the beginning of the end? Oh well, who the hell should worry about sanity when there's the prospect of endless senior hilarity!Katihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05645682203535768013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-74809596512323485732009-12-19T12:11:23.011-06:002009-12-19T12:11:23.011-06:00PS: Anyone heard from Schuyler? I hope he's...PS: Anyone heard from Schuyler? I hope he's ok, he had so many worries piled up on his head...Katihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05645682203535768013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-20882379339581543132009-12-19T12:04:38.673-06:002009-12-19T12:04:38.673-06:00Ahoi Captain Smag!
You're perceptive as usua...Ahoi Captain Smag!<br /> <br />You're perceptive as usual so I don't have much to add. I'm a bit seasick, rocked back and for on a sea of ... what!? <br /><br />Baby Poo!<br /><br />Those guys better contain the noxious stuff in disposable diapers and bury them in landmines, oops, I mean landfills....<br /><br />I haven't kept up with the no-diaper crowd but I've been told that in those countries without diapers a baby is usually held all the time by parents or members of extended families so they can tell when she/he is about to poop (I don't know about pee, though. Just look at pics of mom working in the fields with babies on their backs... And then I saw picture of Indonesian cribs made out of wood with an opening where baby's butt would be so that the stuff just flows out to the ground for happy parents to clean... lovely!<br /><br />I hope the future parents's friends get together and gift them with ten thousand disposable biodegradable chlorine free diapers you can order on line at reasonable cost... <br /><br />In my distant baby raising days, we had to use cloth diapers. You took the soiled diaper and first rinsed it in the toilet. You held in firmly while you flushed and then wrang it out and put it in the diaper pail. But these things are sometimes pretty slippery....<br /><br />I used to live in South Pasadena eons ago in a cul de sac, compound sort of place and we were renting a little house at the end of it. There was a septic tank to serve most of those houses. There was also an extraordinarily cranky landlord who terrified the older kids (and even their parents!).<br /><br />One day I noticed the presence of the septic tank company's giant truck. I was told something had plugged up the works and affected all the houses in the compound except ours. I still have a clear memory of this landlord coming to my house brandishing this cloth diaper "you're the only ones with a baby, you know how much this has costs me! I'm going to up your rent!" I didn't dare ask him to give me back the diaper....Katihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05645682203535768013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-40717968355765394432009-12-18T20:24:49.541-06:002009-12-18T20:24:49.541-06:00Aqualad,
Sorry I'm late. Too many shiny obje...Aqualad,<br /><br />Sorry I'm late. Too many shiny objects at work to distract me yesterday and today. I got a good annual review, though! Oddly enough, not one where they could tell me what the merit raise would be. I'm told that it'll be coming sometime in January. They just don't know what it will be.<br />The recession's a hell of a drug, eh?<br /><br />But enough about me. <br />LW1: The Organic Wonder Twins remind me of Mitchell and Cameron from "Modern Family"... if both of them were Mitchell. It's tempting, but they won't get a swat from the rolled-up magazine, because trying to raise the kids the way they think they will be, will soon be punishment enough.<br /><br />LW2 - Sub-Mariner, I believe that too many torpedoes were launched here. I took all the "had"s for taking care of Mom as Familial Duty fueled by Organic Diesel Love. "Had" in the sense of: "It's Mom! You do whatever it takes!" (I'd do the same for my Mom, what can I say. I would "have" to, dig?)<br />And without getting all political and shit, Mom probably had the kind of health care that many Americans have: the kind where not getting treatment(s) paid for happens more than they do get paid for.<br />My aunt is, um... reeeeeeeeallly "funny" about money, too. As much as I love her, it wouldn't surprise me a bit if she did the same thing, given the same situation. And God help anyone who tried to get her to either admit to having received money, or to give it up!<br /><br />LW3: I'm far too trusting. I naturally assume that all letters are real. ((sigh))<br />That said, I've also been in the dreaded, "dragged into a lie" situation. When I first moved across the country, I had a housemate whose relationship with her boyfriend was duplicitous, for lack of a better term. In a nutshell, Housemate decided that her mother, a devout Jew who happens to be an invalid and had nothing to do day and night but lie in bed and worry about her kids, would (per Housemeate) >literally< worry herself to death if she found out that Housemate's bf was/is not Jewish. So from the very start - and maybe even still - the nature of their relationship was hidden from all family members.<br />Needless to say I disagreed with this approach, but their behavior didn't otherwise affect me. Until one night, she got in a car accident on the way to her bf's, and while he was the one she'd called, she told family members that I had been the one to help her. And then forgot to tell me. A few days later her father was thanking me at length for being such a good friend to help her through the accident. I didn't know what to make of it. THEN she told me that everybody thought I'd raced to the scene. So, I told her in no uncertain terms that she was never to involve me in her Big Lie again. Or I would tell - period. She started pleading, so I repeated myself.<br />The moral of the story is that I wasn't dragged into her Big Lie again (other than the big lie of omission), and I moved out eventually, anyway.<br /><br />LW4: Oh, for God's sake, invite him to watch Dad perform, if nothing else! He wouldn't be agonizing and fretting about making you join him for school reunions, work events and crap like that.<br /><br />Therefore:<br />A whack of a rolled-up Cosmopolitan all around, folks! It's the holidays snd I'm feeling generous!<br />God smack us, everyone!herdThinnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11243614435958257781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5243415857143630995.post-49277678083950312712009-12-18T16:46:31.207-06:002009-12-18T16:46:31.207-06:00Greetings everyone...a fine Smaggie/Prudie day to ...Greetings everyone...a fine Smaggie/Prudie day to you...oh, and happy holiday's to boot.<br /><br />I needed a good laugh and here I am being provided for once again.<br /><br />The new parents of twins are in for a rude awakening. Do they even have any idea of the amount of poo and pee comes out of just ONE little person? I think not. It's an AMAZING amount of foreign looking material! Can you see them now disagreeing and one parent hiding the Huggie's for one moment of sanity while the other parent makes the tenth trip to the store for more PROZAC? I'll just slip this on the babies while he/she goes to the store, so I can shower to get the poo out of my hair. (Two babies without diapers would make me go to the store often) They'll both be doing drugs, organic or not within a week. Oh, don't get me started on pee'ing in the sink! Moron's abound.<br /><br />Speaking of moron's...what friend in their right mind would ask you to lie for them TO THEIR SPOUSE, whom you have a relationship with? Another moron wishing to add to your need of additional drama in your life. I agree Smaggie...kick em' to the curb and fast!<br /><br />I must say I did like the last fellow idea's of staying at her parents house rifling through their things while they go to church, creative. I always ask myself what the hell women are thinking when they sign up for marriage without thinking things through....we spend more time picking out a good melon. Sheesh. <br /><br />I can do any religion as long as they aren't promoting good behavior through guilt, but if they bully and start pounding hell and damnation from the pulpit I'm gone, dashing for the door, so I doubt I'd be signing up to go every year once I found this style out nor would I be attending the snake loving chanting folks event either as interesting as they may be. In laws or not. Flight or fight kicks in when I'm the receiver of someone elses power trip, my fuck you kicks in when I am bullied in any way, religion or not. Freedom, I like it...I like it a lot.<br /><br /><br />Happy trails everyone...Smaggie a fond farewell!DebbiePlaysWellWithOthershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11647894940477287915noreply@blogger.com